Today seems to be a day outside, that’s nice too, because in late september the weather here in Germany is really nice. The temperature is around 21 degree (70 F) so we’ve spent our time outside, we walked to different playgrounds and took the dog of course.
While being outside I was already thinking about a next and new blog entry, something that’s on my mind for some time now.
As a big sister of 3, having countless cousins, aunts and uncles on this earth, stress, discussion and similar conversations are preprogrammed, before I walked with Jesus, close to him there was this thinking inside me, that wasn’t christian thinking at all.
Judging thoughts, bad thoughts and well simply not those Jesus has about me, and isn’t it I want to become more like him every day?
When someone did something bad, wrong or not nice, immediately there is judgement in my family. I guess it’s something common and I wouldn’t tell that there is a family without such situations. What I found out for myself is, to simply slow down in joining discussions and situations like this. It’s not the best to join in the first discussion only to be one of them talking about another.
I have one example, it’s already years ago but one of my relatives started to tell my family some rumours about another relative. The interesting part is, I kept quiet until they nearly finished their story tale and I started to interrupt, because I was actually in contact with this “talked about relative” and could most likely refute the tall tales.
Sadly this tall tale was already spread through the family world-wide (my family lives nearly everywhere, America, Australia and Indonesia) so it was an unfortunate story and situation. At this time I was really disappointed in my big indonesian Family, because it seemed that rumors are more likely than truth, or the wish for truth. Because truth and light is not as attractive as lies and rumors.
When I contacted my relative about this story and informed her about where it was spread already, the person told me, knowing about this fact and this state of family relationship. It’s sad, but how to stop if your father has 10 siblings – each of them several children and well every one of them their own life (more or less) and own problems, but seemed to be discussed from far away by their so wise relatives?
Also it’s a different cultural story, being asian means to stay under the talk of the elders more or less.. it’s a lot about respect, about reputation, gossip around the village and for a woman unless you are married you have to stick around your parents… I know it’s not only asian culture but I can talk about them now only, because I’m half indonesian.
For me it is a different story again, because I’m half indonesian and half german. I was born and raised here in germany, so I’m more german inside and my mind is more free than my families (I don’t want to put someone into a box or determine someone on this, it’s just the situation with my relatives and me)
When I talked to my relative, she told me, that it’s more easy for a woman to live freely in Germany, than in Indonesia. Sure you go working no matter if men or women, but as a single woman without husband yet it is not easy. Depending on the cultural background it can be really tough for a woman.
At this time it was a task for me to think myself into her position and try to understand their thinking… nevertheless, I was not okay with the gossip, because it came all the way to germany and as a child of the light and a follower of Jesus I cannot allow the lie to continue and be spread out more and more.
Walking with Jesus meant to stop the lie, but also not to judge the ones telling it (with or without intention). For me I understand that it’s important and a learning process to understand how God sees us as his children. We are all doing mistakes, because we are not flawless, we have different problems, different failings and as a child of God it is made easy, we can bring everything of it to him, telling him that we need him to correct us like a father should do.
So God doesn’t judge me for being wrong the time in my past, he opened his arms welcoming me, showing me how to act the next time, showing me how he react. So that I can see through his eyes and understand at least a tiny bit of his never-ending love.
And now? Today I can see the difference between me and my relatives, I’m still on my way so are they, and I try to tell them what I got teached, and today I can tell everyone with love and with Jesus by my side, what is bigger than any circumstance here on earth, without judging and condemn.
So what leads us to the attraction of gossiping about others? Years ago I talked about this topic with one relative already and found out earth-related reasons – boredom.
How do rumors arise? Can I tell you something, for me it seems, that if a situation is not that exciting at all there should be add some other things and information to top the whole story – no matter if true or well, lets say far-fetched.
So it’s to make a situation more interesting? Well not only to let the situation be more interesting, but to let the storyteller look like he is more informed than others.
But why should someone want to do so? – Egoism, narcissism, vainglory, envy,… the list will continue but my main focus is – this is not from God. God is not egoism, narcissism, etc. God is love, he is forgiveness, he is selfless and he looks to the other to be comforted in love.
So, if it’s not from God, where is it from? When we open our Bible (I like to do my research in the Bible App – on iOs or Android or on the internet), we find out that the one who first raised egoism to stand above the creator is the one who fell down from the heavens to the earth, the snake who deceived man in paradise was and is jealousy.
I realized, that every time I feel feelings like anger, jealousy, envy etc. it’s not my heavenly fathers feelings, it’s the enemies feelings. He tries to contaminate human on earth to be far away from the father and to keep them occupied.
So what does it mean to me? For me it’s clear, I’m trying to bring them the light, I try to tell them more about my brother Jesus. I do this with talk and the most powerful way in prayer. Be a blessing, so you will be blessed!
With this I thank you for reading my story! Be richly blessed!